In the past decade, I have helped hundreds of couples overcome the differences that have sometimes caused years of marital conflict. Of the many tools I offer couples in the form of communication exercises and tools for improving intimacy, a surprisingly simple solution to many marital conflicts rests on this concept of compatibility. After years of arguing and not seeing "eye-to-eye" my clients are often pleasantly surprised to find out that their partner is not, in fact, intentionally hurting their feelings. The fact is that each of us has a unique way of seeing and interacting with the world. The problem with this fact is that each of us thinks that the way we see the world is the way everyone else should see the world, as well! We assume that our way is the best way! However, when you understand that the differences between you and your partner are meant to enhance your relationship, you can begin to appreciate each other instead of trying to change each other.