4. When I was young, I had plenty of time for playing and just being a kid.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

5. I recognize the important of good health and have a regular routine of exercise and good nutrition.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

6. I am appreciative of and non-critical toward my body.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

7. I am good at managing my time so that I can stay in balance between my own needs and other people's requests of my time.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

8. I am happy and free of anxiety.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

9. I believe my life has purpose.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

10. I spend most of my time doing the things that are most important to me.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

11. I enjoy mutually fulfilling friendships.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

12. I recognize that crying is just as important as laughing. I am willing and able to receive the gifts crying brings to me.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

13. I feel my feelings in my stomach
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

14. My feelings are valuable tools that I use to help me interact in a healthy way with myself and in my relationships.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

15. I can easily talk about my feelings.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

16. I recognize the difference between what I think and what I feel.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

17. I pay attention to my thoughts and am in the habit of thinking positive, nurturing thoughts about myself and others.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

18. When I find a task difficult, I usually "stick with it" until I am able to overcome the difficulty.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

19. I allow other people to put me down or I put myself down.
Strongly Agree = 1; Agree = 2; Disagree = 3; Strongly Disagree = 4

20. I am optimistic.
Strongly Agree = 4; Agree = 3; Disagree = 2; Strongly Disagree = 1

Now, add up the points for each item to get your total score. Find out what your score means about you below.

71 - 80: Congratulations! You are very good at staying connected to yourself and aware of your feelings and needs. You are good at maintaining the balance between your own needs and caring for others. You understand yourself and how to take care of yourself in a variety of different situations. Most likely, other people look up to you for these qualities and you have good, strong friendships and close relationships. You are an expert at knowing and loving who you are and you teach those qualities to others by example. Thank you for all of the hard work you had to do to get to this place in your life!

61 - 70: Although you scored pretty high on the Know and Love Who You Are scale, you have a few areas of improvement where your focused attention could assist you in becoming your very best self. Most likely, you manage pretty well but tend to allow yourself to get overly tired when you take on too many responsibilities. Then, you might even have a "meltdown" that leaves you feeling sick or depressed. Although you bounce back, it sometimes takes longer than you wanted or expected to get back on your feet. A careful analysis of where you are spending your energy and how you budget your time could make the difference in awareness that could push you over the top into your happiest self. You are well on your way, so don't give up until you really know and love who you are!

51 - 60: Your score indicates that you need to spend some time learning to get to know yourself and accepting who you find during the process. You may be active and a high achiever, but you may be critical of yourself or find it difficult to be comfortable around other people because of your negative self-talk. You may already realize that you are unhappy or uncomfortable much of the time, but don't know what to do about it. The good news is that developing the ability to know and love who you are is a process that anyone can learn. I invite you to invest the time and energy to do that.

20 - 50: If you score in this range, you are probably already aware that you need to learn new skills to feel better. I acknowledge you for taking the first step toward a better life. Although you have probably endured many hardships and life may be very difficult right now, you do have the power to change your circumstances. The change you desire in your life begins inside of you. I encourage you to take the first step and keep stepping because the journey to happiness begins with getting to know yourself and forgiving yourself for anything you feel shame about. It can be a difficult and long journey, but it is well worth it.

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